Jackson Katz asks men what they do daily to prevent being raped. He is often met with silence. Eventually, one student might say: avoid going to prison.
He then asks the women the same question. Immediately hands pop up with responses:
- Hold keys as a potential weapon;
- Look in the back seat before getting in the car;
- Carry a cell phone;
- Don’t go walking/jogging at night;
- Lock all the windows when I sleep;
- Don’t take a ground floor apartment;
- Own a big dog;
- Carry mace or pepper spray or a gun;
- Have a home alarm system;
- Don’t drink too much, and don’t let my drink out of my sight;
- Have a buddy system;
And so on and so on.
Teaching our children
These are the messages we pass along to our daughters, teaching them from an early age to be aware of their surroundings, avoid certain areas, walk with a partner and so on. Universities and Colleges offer workshops for female students to help teach ways to avoid being a victim, including self-defence techniques. One study determined that only 22 women would need to participate in a rape prevention program to prevent one additional rape from happening that year.
What about boys?
A lot of time, money and energy is spent on helping females to avoid becoming victims. As a result, females are often the ones held responsible for their participation in sexual activity. In fact, in one analysis of a scenario, the commentary has focused exclusively on the role of the female since the 1990s, a point the professor continues to make.
How to prevent rape
Recently there are those who have turned the tables and created a list of things men can do to avoid raping. The emphasis in this instance in on the choices males make that could ultimately lead to rape with the encouragement to avoid these behaviours. Underlying this message is an awareness that men are not helpless victims of their own urges but have the capacity to make better choices that will ultimately protect themselves and those whom they may sexually desire.
What do you think? What should young people be taught? How is this different for males and females? When should this be introduced? Who should teach it? Your thoughts are welcomed!
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