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Picky Eaters

At a recent Thrive! Dinner we had paninis.  To accommodate vegetarians, I purchased an avocado hummus that I thought would be nice with red peppers, carrots, spinach and cheese.  While I have eaten garlic and roasted red pepper hummus, avocado was new to me so, I decided to give it a try with a carrot. 

The puzzled look on my face (the taste was not what I was expecting), led to a conversation that included inviting others to give it a try.  Initially there weren’t a lot of fans.  I followed up by making a panini.  The taste grew on me and another participant was really enjoying it as a dip.  In the end, it was an interesting experiment.

Food fights!

One of the challenges of parenting is getting our kids to try new things.  Picky eaters can be the norm for a considerable part of childhood and even beyond.  Sometimes the struggle is compounded by food allergies or anxiety making mealtimes a constant battle.

Tricks we tried

Over the years, we tried to get our picky eater to try new things.  For a while we used Jessica Seinfeld’s cookbook “Deceptively Delicious” which had me making purees, freezing these in ice cube trays and then adding them to a variety of dishes.  Our kid knew that I would do this, but the rule was that I wouldn’t reveal what was in the food until at least half of the serving was eaten.

Recognising that kids can be turned off at the sight of something new and different, for a time we played: “name that food”.  I would make dinner without telling my family what I was making.  Then I would blindfold them at the table and give them bites of food.  They then had to guess what I made.  This was done with the assurance that there would only be one potentially new food on the plate so as not to overwhelm the picky eater.  Interestingly, this is when I introduced long grain and wild rice.  To this day I believe that my kid would have picked out the wild rice because it is dark in colour but because it was first tried while blindfolded it remains on the menu to this day.

Peer Pressure

As our picky eater moved into the later teen years, we have encouraged hosting dinner parties and going to meals with friends.  Engaging with others has helped to introduce our teen to some new foods.  Of course, this process comes with its challenges too.  Giving teenagers free reign to make their own dinner had them ambitiously trying to make pasta from scratch which ended up being a horrible failure.  In the end, the group opted to order pizza which we still considered a ‘win’ in developing independence.

What is important?

In the end, we know there are those who will go through life and continue to be picky eaters.  I know seniors for whom restaurant choices are a challenge.  Perhaps the most important thing is that whoever we are and whatever our preferences might be, our body gets what it needs to survive and thrive.

Do you agree?

Are you a picky eater?  Do you know a picky eater?  What tricks have you experienced to encourage picky eaters to try something new?  What does it take for you to try something new?  We would love to hear from you!

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Food Sensitivities

The reality of trial and error

We ended up in the baking isle at the same time.  I could hear her talking on the phone clearly anxious about the task ahead of her.  When she hung up we were both scouring the same shelves.  “What are you working on?” I asked.

She lifted up a cake pan in the design of a children’s elephant.  “I’m trying to make this, but the cake has to be gluten free and the icing has to be gluten and corn free.  So I can’t simply pick from all of this.”

I thought back to all of the cakes I have made for my kid over the years. I realised how much harder her task would be trying to accommodate food sensitivities.  Perhaps the greatest blessing, I suggested, is that the child is still young and will thus be forgiving if things don’t look exactly like the picture.  What is really important, of course, is that he can have a Birthday cake and not get sick.

Time and a willingness to take calculated risks makes a difference.  To borrow from Samuel Beckett: “Ever tried.  Ever failed.  No matter.  Try again.  Fail again.  Fail better.”  That is the heart of parenting in any age.  If we are honest with ourselves, we would likely have to admit that most of the time we are just making it up as we go along, hoping that what we do will be OK; that we won’t end up harming our children; that we will both survive our mistakes because at the end of the day we love our kids no matter what their issues may be.

In the midst of these struggles it can help to have others with whom we can share our stories, our struggles, and our joys.  We can learn from each other, support each other, laugh and cry with each other.  This is the heart of Thrive! A living manual for families – a youth and family ministry project in Essex County.

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